Thoughts on a phrase

[celticdragonfly]

I'm thinking today about the phrase "don't take it personally", and why it bugs me.

Nobody has actually used that phrase to me lately. But it's been used on me a lot, I dislike it, and it's gotten to the point where if I think I see it coming I get cranky and defensive.

Thinking it over, really, if someone says that, what they're basically saying is "You shouldn't have feelings, because it's inconvenient for me."

I want to find strategies and answers so I can never let that phrase get used on me again.

Comments

[fadethecat.livejournal.com]

It typically means, "I claim not to care, and therefore I am a stronger person than you, because you do." Loathsome phrase.